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After matching on Tinder, Drew and I met for drinks.He talked about how much he loved his family, his spacious one-bedroom apartment, his summer share in the Hamptons, and how he wanted kids one day — the typical first-date catnip that’s par for the course in New York City.I decided not to meet Paul after that text, and when I recounted the story to my then-coworker, she exclaimed that she’d heard it before.“It’s like someone told men to be upfront, and they’ve taken it to the hundredth degree,” she said. It feels like as online dating has evolved, and women have become more vocal about what we want, men have become ever-so-slightly more transparent.I had just ended my second “serious relationship” and had been back in the usual rotation of dating apps when I met Drew*.
“But it’s important to know what you’re looking for.Last fall, I picked up a guy in the park while walking a friend’s dog for a story about how dogs are the ultimate wingmen.None of the other dogs I’d walked for the story pulled through — but Mookie, a dashing Australian Shepherd, caught me the attention of a guy I’ll call Paul, a cute yoga instructor with a man bun and a good smile. Paul and I texted back and forth over the next week or so, eventually putting some time on the calendar to get to know each other without Mookie yanking me with his leash.But you should have an idea of what you’re looking for in general before you join Tinder or ask someone for their number.” In other words, if you don’t know whether you want a relationship or just a friends-with-benefits situation, figure it out before you start swiping.“[That statement] also assumes that the woman is looking for an instant connection with the guy she’s about to go out with,” says Sussman.