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How terribly lamentable to such a child that it is not the custom for boys to play with dolls, that Santa Claus will not bring him any dolls, too, and that he is forbidden to play with his sister's dolls!Even a cursory review of the science tells us that gays indeed are born that way.Science, though, is late to linking sexuality with gender expression.Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, the first openly gay man, argued in pamphlets starting in 1864 that " an Urning [his coinage for a gay male] is not a man, but is a type of hermaphrodite, a man-woman with the sexual orientation of a woman," a "third sex." Ulrichs used the Latin phrase anima muliebris virili corpore inclusa (the soul of a woman in the body of man) to sum up his theory: "Distinct from the feminine persuasion of our sexual drive, we Urnings have still another feminine trait in us which, so it seems to me, offers the most positive proof that nature developed the physical male germ in us, yet mentally, the feminine one." A century before Ulrichs, molly houses existed in 18th century England whose participants engaged in feminine behavior.
To put another way, even pro-gay researchers have found that under controlled experiments some well-known stereotypes about effeminate gay men contain at least a "kernel of truth." While confirmation of these stereotypes goes relatively unmentioned in most of the press, this gay effeminacy is foundational to the conclusion that gay men are born that way.A contemporary witness: "they rather fancy themselves as women, imitating all the little vanities that custom has reconciled to the female sex, affecting to speak, walk, tattle, curtsy, cry, scold, and to mimic all the manner of effeminacy that ever has fallen within their several observations." Historical examples of possibly gay men include the Greek/Roman kinaidos/cinaedi and Native American berdaches.The former were thought of as effeminate not just because they took the receptive role in anal sex, but because they were also feminine in dress and manner.In humans, this sexually dimorphic region is called the INAH3.Simon Le Vay's research has found that the size of INAH3 in gay men mirrors that of women, while straight men's are considerably larger than both.