E dating exposed wicked
Forgiving people who don't personally atone for their sins makes a statement: Repentance isn't really necessary.
Can anything be more immoral than encouraging evil by refraining from any condemnation of those who committed it?
Titled “The Power to Live and Forgive” Eva has chosen finally to forgive her tormentor, the man commonly referred to as “the Angel of death at Auschwitz”.
“I imagined Mengele was in the room with me,” she recounts.
If that is a source of comfort to her I must respect her wishes.
What I cannot accept however is the verdict of the millions of viewers which suggests that Eva has now become the personification of the ideal victim of Nazi barbarism – a saintly soul by virtue of her willingness to forget and forgive, a perfect role model for all other survivors or students of all too recent modern history.
These were deeply misguided gestures of compassion that carried potentially tragic consequences. To forgive and forget, as Arthur Schopenhauer so well put it, "means to throw valuable experience out the window." And without the benefit of experience's lessons we are almost certain to be doomed to repeat them. So Mengele deserved, Mengele the doctor, the physician, the healer! What horrid pain and agony he inflicted, smiling and studious, like a crowd of well-dressed and be-tassled, black-hatted Bochirim surrounding a young lady in a khaki uniform and pants, mocking her, agonizing her, spitting at her, defiling her with words. For he did more horrid things than speech, he tortured, he killed. Yet to forgive herself she also had to forgive Mengele.
And, on September 12th, immediately after the tragedy of 9/11, on several American campuses colleges groups pleaded for forgiveness for the terrorists responsible for the horrific events of the previous day. Does it fall like the gentle rain from heaven onto the Death Camps like a torrent and drown every single soul in it! Eva the sister, the twin, who survived did not just forgive a Mengele, she forgave herself. Through all the worlds and twists and turns of the sefirot, true forgiveness pierces like Pincus's spear.
Recent articles have taken note of the contemporary phenomenon of “forgiveness shaming.” Forgiving, no matter what the original offense, has achieved such moral glorification that people who refuse to join in the chorus of “I love you no matter what you did to me” have become the ones who need to justify their stance or face communal shaming for their rigid “intolerance.” Jeanne Safer, a prominent psychoanalyst and psychotherapist wrote about a colleague who was exposed to disturbing behavior and bullying from her brother who never apologized for his actions. No one would argue any sense of equivalency with what Mengele did, but Judaism has long taken a very dim view of bad business dealings.
“Contrary to the conventional wisdom, refusing to forgive or have further contact with an unrepentant, abusive relative is therapeutic. Mengele of Auschwitz, dare never be forgiven – even though I forgive Eva Kor for choosing that option for herself while almost all of her fellow victims reject it. When, then, when t'shuvah is absent or in doubt, should mass violators of financial trust be granted forgiveness?
Otherwise, I would have spent the rest of my life under the control of destructible feelings and emotions. This may have been right for Eva, and she gained psychological power from the ability to have compassion, but many of us are not that saintly to those who have destroyed our lives.
I've met Eva Kor, such a wonderful person, who has freed herself of all hatred and ,resentment, to become a happy, mentally healthy and stable human being. Even Judaism established the court system, an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, for this very reason. I just hope that Eva has lived a good life so far and continues to do so.