Dating violence myths
Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser after the onset of violence.
(, Federal Bureau of Investigation, 1991.)If a person is really being abused, it’s easy to just leave.
We hear this a lot from concerned parents: “If something was going on, they would tell me.” At loveisrespect, we’re either still in high school or not that far removed from it so we feel confident in saying that sometimes the subject of dating is just too awkward to broach with parents. Abusive partners find different ways to hurt their partner: forcing sex, withholding money, calling them names, obsessively texting, stalking, etc. Abusive relationships can make you feel worthless, stress you out beyond belief, and make you feel like you have nowhere to turn.
Below, Campbell discusses the myths surrounding domestic abuse and their impact as she struggled to break free from a life of pain, shame, and guilt.
Boyfriends and girlfriends sometimes push each other around when they get angry, but it rarely results in anyone getting seriously hurt.
When I was 17, my boyfriend went for my throat and choked me in a fit of jealous rage upon learning that I had dated others before we became exclusive.
I thought this was an involuntary reflex he could not control.