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You're still allowing him to make good on his mistakes and to comfort you.
No blaming, no silent treatment, no screaming, no foot-stomping, and no pouting.
For me, the moment my relationships got hard, I’d have a very hard time showing my genuine interest, so I put on a fake smile and said things were fine.
But inside I was truly losing interest mostly because I didn’t know how to deal with the relationship challenges. The only thing I ever owned was that I didn’t want to call her my girlfriend.
Accountability and structure will actually make an emotionally unavailable man feel more trusting of you and safer to come closer.
If he comes toward you in a loving way and you're happy to see him and have his attention, then you have to "melt" into his advances.
It's a reward system where you're rewarding him with appreciation and love when he does something good for you and your relationship.
Little Pumpkin warmed up right away to my Chihuahua mix but not to my Jack Russell mix. Because my Chihuahua mix invited Pumpkin to come closer, as opposed to my Jack Russell mix who constantly tried to bruise his way into her space.
If you're loving an emotionally unavailable man who remains at a distance, isn't emotionally open, and who has admitted distrust in women, it's best you extend an unspoken invitation for him to get to know you and come close, rather than trying to "pull" love out of him like fingers from a Chinese finger cuff.
So, no calling him, touching him to force a connection, seducing him with sexy texts and photos, inviting him to concerts of his favorite band, and so on. You must remain patient and wait for him to call, invite you somewhere, touch you, or ask you questions about yourself.
You must let him create the safe place with you instead of you forcing him to feel safe in a way that will never make him feel comfortable.