Am i his girlfriend or are we just dating
In other words, it doesn’t matter what an amazing guy he is if he’s told you things like “I never want to be married,” “I’m too busy for a relationship,” “I’m not looking for anything serious,” and so on.
Women waste years on men who said they want a casual relationship on their terms only – and then claim to be shocked when it turns out he was telling the truth.
So ladies, if a guy never introduces you as his girlfriend, his fiancée, or his wife, chances are he might have very well filed you under one of these headings in his little black book.1. This is the most common of them all, and has probably given credence to the argument that it is impossible for two individuals from opposite sexes to remain just friends.
Both individuals usually pretend that the relationship is uncomplicated, and that both are for the most part just hang-out buddies with "no strings attached" although they are always on each other's arms.
He wants to be judged for his actions, not his words. And if, after this conversation, he can’t give you this nominal gift of safety, I would highly consider moving on to a man who has the ability to step up and make you feel safe.
It’s not that this is a bad guy at all, but rather that you might be waiting your whole life to hear some words that shouldn’t cost all that much to say.
Yes, we are exclusive, and everything seemed and felt right, but I feel like he negated everything we have had now and feel like maybe I shouldn’t trust him. Personally, I’m of two minds about the whole thing.
Basically though, I was blindsided the other day because after everything, he said that I am not his “girlfriend” and he doesn’t want the expectations that come with the title.
I suggest you show him this post, if you want to, to demonstrate to him the image he is giving of himself by making this remark,how it can be interpreted by a woman, and see what he says – if he vehemently disagrees with my interpretation – GREAT.
IN this age of Facebook, Twitter and sex-texting, hooking up with someone has never been easier.
I have known guys like this, and have to say I would not take Evan’s pro’s and cons view of the whole thing. Basically, this guy wants the “good bits” (or what he sees as the good bits) of being in a relationship, without what he considers the “bad bits”.
He wants the company, security, cuddles, sex, outings, phonecalls, meals together, weekend plans, but he doesn’t want the EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY of being someone’s partner.